I want to try this approach with friendships. That is, not doing favours for people with the expectation of getting something in return (even, really, gratitude) and also not doing things that make me unhappy out of some vague feeling of obligation to a friend.
I’m sure there will turn out to be all sorts of exceptions to this, and it may just not work. Still, I think it might be a useful attitude for me to take. Feel free to let me know what you think :)