Be nicer to my husband

It’s been awhile since I wrote on this-which is nice because I can see how much of a difference it has made. It’s pretty much unbelievable. I spent so much time thinking about myself as being a somewhat powerless victim of how he treats me. I would beg him and beg him to treat me with respect-for YEARS. Now, I am just sugary sweet most (not all) of the time-especially when things are stressful. It almost immediately turns things around. Even when I have to fake it. Then, a short time after the fakeness I can’t believe how genuine it is for both of us. Our marriage is better now. I don’t nag, I like my husband and he respects me. Amazing!

I’d like to continue to work on this as I am feeling very grumpy and uncomfortable in the last few weeks of this pregnancy. I would like to be more peaceful and calming to and around him. I want my sweetness back!

I have to work on this every day, most of the day. My husband has some great qualities but he is really difficult too. I think the biggest thing I have been working on lately is watching my tone. If I can stay calm it makes us both feel like at least someone has some control and he usually will come around faster. Sometimes I just get so frustrated in his lack of patience and how he talks to me and other people.

I don’t think this has been my strong point lately. Its so much harder with pregnancy hormones running amuck! He’s been so extra nice to me though. I have a great husband.

I, a very liberal person, have found myself reading Dr. Laura’s book (who I despise) “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands”. Damn her. She is right. It’s working like a charm. I can’t believe I’ve been working so hard for so long at trying to make my husband like me. She says basically that men are simple. Feed their egos, pump them up and make them feel like your hero. Plus do little nice things like bring them coffee in the morning or whatever. Apparently, men are pretty simple. My husband has been eating it up.

I cannot believe how much our relationship is improving. It’s immeasurable. I enjoy him so much more and he responds so much better to me. It’s really in the little things. Watching my tone. Little nice comments. This is the most rewarding goal so far.

I’ve been trying to tell my husband on his way to work that he looks nice (ps he really does). His face just lights up with the littlest compliments.

I bit my tongue this morning when my husband was doing his usual rant about something trivial. The rant just stopped. Hmmm?....

I spent the last week + with his family with some, but minimal complaining. This is the nicest thing I can think of since it sucked. I guess sometimes part of being married is doing things you don’t like.

After getting very upset at my husband for saying he was going to stay out of town tonight I then decided to tell him that what I was really upset about was that I missed him. Hmmm…he is on his way home. Maybe my kinder approach is working.