Make new friends

Well, I have been living in China for less than two weeks. I’ve met a few people, but no one that I think I could really be comfortable with. I think its easier to make friends when you already have a few lined up because then there isn’t the same pressure. I think when I move somewhere new and don’t have any friends I give off this odour of desperation that drives people away….

I really am starting to get better at this. On my recent trip I made a few new friends and was able to experience more of the local culture than I would have otherwise. Hopefully this will get even easier in the future because its tiring that it always takes a few hours of talking to people before I feel like I can start to relax!

Maybe I should try and make friends with this “cheer goblin”. I was thinking of adding a goal to meet the goblin and give it a piece of my mind. However, then I would end up having 50 thousand entries on that one goal because everyday I would end up raging, “When I get my hands on that cheer goblin…” This will put a more positive (happy) spin on this! : )

So this morning a co-worker sat down with me and asked if myself and mannysworld would come over to dinner to meet this woman she know’s that is new in town from France. Hooray, I really am starting to feel like I am on a roll with this one!

I made a new friend at work. We have always chatted at work, and I thought she was really funny. The other day we met up outside of work and ended up spending the whole day together. She is really fun and crazy and she makes me laugh constantly. I’m really glad that I made this a goal for myself.

I decided to get around the whole being kind of shy thing by re-making friends with people I have fallen out of touch with over the years. I highly recommend it. It is really neat talking to people you haven’t been able to for awhile…unless you find out they are all successful doctors…. Just kidding! : )

So although I never actually made a conscious goal of making new friends, it has been in the back of my mind for the last year or so. I moved to a new city about a year ago, and didn’t think it would be that hard to make new friends but it is. When I was younger I found it easy to just approach people and talk to them, but with every year I find my social skills going down the toilet. I am constantly unsure of myself, and wondering if when I meet people I give of this stink of desperation…an aura of “please be my friend”.