be more patient with my children

...but it really does help with my patience towards my 15 year old!

We finally finally went to the Family Planning Clinic and got a prescription for the pill for her. She has needed this ever since the dreaded red arrived on her doorstep. I held off hoping that she would ease into it all but no. Her pms is absolutely extreme, her flow heavy (poor love) and generally it debilitates her for two to three days each month. So hopefully this will help immensely and if it helps with the pms then my patience with her will be easier to manage!!! At the moment it’s the only thing preventing me from ticking off this goal as I find that I just lose it with her when she is being a difficult pre-menstrual teenage girl.

as completed. But I will wait a while I think. I am finding the way I handle the girls a lot better. I’m less likely to fly off the handle. That being said, I still do just not as often and I’m being particularly better with responding to my eldest and her moods. She is so hormonal and I have noticed that little by little the intensity of the bad times of late are slowly going. Not completely mind you but I think with me showing more patience and probably more consistency and firmness, she is not fighting back as much. Teenage years are soooo sooo hard!!!

so easy to have patience for one child and none at all for the other?? What does this say about myself as a parent? Why can’t I balance the two equally. Why does one have to be constant constant work? She’s essentially such a good teenager (I’m lucky when I think about potentially what she could be like) but she drains me so much, she zaps my happiness (gosh I hate saying that about my own daughter) and just pushes my buttons like no other. I wish I could put it down to the teen years but I can only say this decade of teenage-dom has only excaberated the problem rather than be the problem. {sigh}...and then yet on the other hand, we are extremely close and I value her so much as a person. She’s so talented, pretty, intelligent and brave.

with Molly my eldest (she is 14). Such a hard hard age. I feel as though our relationship has detoriated massively in the last 6 months and I have absolutely zero patience with her.

The four year old on the other hand is a piece of cake but I can’t complete this goal with only half. I think I may have to give this one up…waaaaaaaaaahhhh :-(