control my anger

This Friday I am seeing a counselor for the first time. I’ve been trying to keep a handle on things myself, but it doesn’t seem like I am able to do it on my own. My wife tells me I have to take responsibility for my actions, I can agree with that. I guess I feel cheated though because while I do not blame my wife for making me lose my temper, she can push my buttons very easily, but will always tell me she isn’t pushing my buttons. That pushes my buttons as well. Am I losing it and going crazy here? Maybe this will give me some validation. Hopefully it will give me some ability to keep calmer and not blow up. I can recall things my father did when I was a kid, and I do not want to impart that on my son. He has his own issues as well (he’s 6) and I can see too many similarities. I don’t want him going throught he same things I did.

My son is 6, and I see in him actions I do, much as I did with my father when I was younger, and I imagine the same as he did with his. I want to break this cycle, and let him be the happier person he could be if I wasn’t ruining his life.