I can tell that I have grown in this area because I could really see two negative relationships in a new light this Saturday.
These two are both full-fledged members of the Moan and Grown Society, which hadn’t struck me with such force till I spent time with them after an absence of some weeks. I was with them for just a couple hours and I was convinced that I needed to let these friendships fade when I left with a sense of relief.
An early clue that these were not healthy relationships might have been that they both wanted quick and intense intimacy that made me uncomfortable.
It was nice to have been treated to dinner and bday cake, but I left convinced that it is not worth being in the cloud of self-pity and victimhood that always surrounds them.
So now I plan to make time for those I know are positive people. TB and DB, SH, friend of SP?, old friends, MF, etc.
