“Fake it ‘till you make it”
Take a moment and decide how you want to react to something, do something you wouldn’t originally do, be rambunctious, and instead of trying to please everyone, cause some conflict, develop your own opinions and style, spend more time grooming yourself, listening to music and really try to understand why you like it, be active, be creative, talk to a stranger, hit on a sales clerk (just for dares, fun, or hey if you find them attractive.)
Maybe thinking about what your personality is/could be/should be is actually stunting it?
But don’t get me wrong, I’m in the same boat as you guise, trying to develop a personality, this is just some things I’ve been trying/striving to try, because really in the end you really have to push your self and take risks, I think.
I really relate to what most everyone has commented, and hope to be happy and comfortable with who I am one day.