I was doing pretty well with this goal a few months ago but I’ve gotten even better lately!
My Son has been seeing a therapist to help deal with his emotional and behavioral problmes. My Mom and I also join in the appointment for the hour. My Son’s Therapist, Todd, helps all of us to better remedy all the situations that have been coming up in the last few years. He’s a great help!
He has helped, not only my Son, but ME, to realize that yelling around the house won’t help with anyting…and that I’ve actually been making said situations worse.
I really felt I could validate my own behavior since it helped me with my stress levels…just to lash out…and then I would be okay. I was WRONG. And I know this.
The last couple of moths, I have made a lot of progress on this.
I hope to be marking this as DONE very soon!
...for the most part. I realized that most of my frustration comes from when my son doesn’t listen to me about anything! Those days (most days) when my voice goes in one ear, out the other. It infuriates me that he tells me “no!” And I go off.
I also thought about all the times I’ve had arguing/yelling matches with my mom…and it’s usually over a guy I like or something that isn’t good for me and I won’t listen to her…hmmm, my son doesn’t listen to me and I don’t listen to…hmmm-light bulb going off lol!
Point is, since I broke-up with my last no-good boyfriend, her and I haven’t faught nearly as much, if any. The guy in my life now is a great man and she likes him! She’s watched him overnight a few times so I could get away and go watch movies and have a sweet time. Her and I have been getting along.
My son is always going to be hard to handle but I feel that I’m getting better as a parent and using less ‘scream therapy’ and more timeouts to get things done. Yay me! I hope this year gets even better C:
the first thing to do to rid myself of this senseless habit is to “count to 10.” Or something along those lines, for sure. BREATHE.
I’ve got a big tendency to shout/raise my voice when I get frustrated or upset in my household. I actually only do it with family (rotten, I know). I can get into arguements with friends or significant others and I, for the most part, keep my tone down and rationally conversate with them. I’m so infuriated with myself that I can act rationally with people OUTSIDE of my family!!! What’s up with that?! Urrrrg!! ;[
I tend to blame my hot headedness on the fact that I’m hlaf mexican and that where that part of me comes out. Truthfully, I’m just a jerk sometimes. I get so fed-up that my family won’t listen to me or doesn’t understand-which my family doesn’t even really know me, sadly-that I just lose it. I can’t even quit with my rambunctious son, whom I love to pieces!!!
I HAVE TO FIND A WAY TO STOP MY TEMPER!! AND OUTBURSTS!! I
I think I may go do some searching online for some self-help techniques that I can try to put into place : ) : ) : )
Hopefully, I can get myself under control…