I feel like, maybe because I am a woman but maybe not, that I have been spoon fed this idea of soul mates and prince charmings and white horses for so long, but I just can’t bring myself to buy into that. I just find it very hard to believe that there is one person, a single person to which my soul is bound for life and whatever comes after. The idea is a little disturbing not just because it implies that my whole life is in waiting for that single person and that I shouldn’t be satisfied with a life without that. But it is also especially disturbing because it belittles other relationships. What I mean is, it is easy to say that a person does not believe in a soul mate because they have never been in love, but I would say that I don’t buy into it because I HAVE been very much in love. So, it doesn’t work out- that happens. But is that person less important life because they are “not the one”? I don’t think so… I enjoy being in relationships, I enjoy feeling connected to another person and am open to the idea that one day I might feel like I want to spend my life beside that person. I just don’t want to spend my lifetime in constant waiting rather than living it.
So, in short, next time someone hands me a big heaping spoon of soul mate cereal (i.e. the next time a Match.com commercial plays on TV), maybe I’ll just say, “mmm, no thank you.” :-)
