be loveable

I dont know whether people got intimidated by me or its simply bcause the way I act or what I said. I know most of the times I rejects the guys offers not because i dont like them, simply because I dont want to depend on them and I like doing my things on my own when i still can. But they seems to get the wrong idea, and just dissapear. Should I pretend? Am I really that hard to handle??? :( :(

I think I need to be more open??? argh@&#@