Stop caring what other people think of me

In some areas I’m getting a bit too far and in others I’m still holding back WAY too much. I need to find balance.

I don’t know how and when, but my confidence is rising. I haven’t felt this good about myself in a long time. I think I am about to become the person I want to be – one who lives in the present, stand up for what she believes in and has a pure heart.

I’m not there yet, but the closer I get to be satisfied with myself the less I care about what anyone else think. It is a klichée but your own opinion of yourself is far more important than anyone elses.

I’m being referred to as “the shy girl” in order for people to remember who I am. I hate it! I have other qualities! Well, I wouldn’t call shyness a quality either..

But I guess I have to blame my self for not showing who I am. Or some bad experiences in my childhood which may have lead to this. How can they know that there are so much better words to describe me in?

It is silly, either way I get judged. If I speak I will get judged by what I say. If i don’t speak I will get judged for a whole bunch of other things, like: not having an opinion, being afraid (which I partly am) and by having no character.

Hm, it’s like I realize it just now. Perhaps it is worse that people think that I have no character than people thinking my character is strange in some way. A person with a strong character you can always respect for their courage to stand up for what they believe in, even if you don’t share their opinion.

Perhaps it is the best choice in this dilemma. You can never avoid people judging and having an opinion about you, so is it even worth trying? And why let your personality and self-esteem pay the price?

I better crawl out of my shell now.

is what you think of yourself. I am not completely satisfied with who I am and perhaps that is one of the reasons for my concern about others opinions. Because the more I like myself – the less I care about what other people think.

This is a hard process to evaluate and finish completely, but I believe that I’m on my way. I think I have discovered more important things to care about.

This one is hard. This has been my major concern growing up, being afraid of what people think of me. It has caused me to hold myself back, not stating my opinions and always obeying others. I have become extremely shy because I have always assumed that people will dislike “the real me”.

Luckily I have always had friends who accept me for who I am. But these are the ones who has been extremely patient and given me a fair chance despite my shyness. I can’t help thinking about how many people I have pushed away.

When becoming older it is definitely not as extreme as before, but that little scared girl is still living deep inside of me, and all she wishes for is to be accepted. But how can you be accepted if you don’t show anyone who you are?