My roommate/best friend has been my hugest supporter with this and she has really motivated me to try to forgive. The thing I have come to realize is that before we can start forgiving others we need to be able to forgive ourselves. It is easy to play the blame game when the finger is pointing at others and not ourselves.
When others do something to us it is hard not to blame ourselves and say that we probably deserved it. I have experienced sexual abuse from a young age and have never really known how to deal with it. I have also stood by many of my friends who have had similar experiences and we have helped each other. It has taken many years and many mistakes on my part to finally learn from this experience, to be able to forgive myself and finally to try and forgive others. But I know it is still a work in progress.
