see my friends more often

Last weekend me and ‘the guys’ had a lovely evening playing games. I invited them to celebrate my birthday. I usually don’t celebrate my birthday, but they kept on asking about it, so I figured I might as well transform one of our regular game nights to a birthday ‘party’. All said and done they decided to give me a gift, which was the game ‘Hippe Kippen’ (I don’t have any idea what it is called in English and if it even is available abroad). It is such a lovely gift! The game is really nice. You have to collect unique cards of different colours and make rows of them and you can collect points for the longest row, or unique rows. Others can interfere though by making longer rows, or making a row in the same colour, so it isn’t unique anymore. It sounds pretty stupid, but it really is a cool game! We had tons of fun with it.

It reminds me that I really should put more effort in having game nights with the guys. Playing games really is something I rarely do whit other people and to be hounest, I doubt if it would be as much fun as with the guys. When I worked on this goal, I put more effort in seeing my female friends more often. I guess it is because friendship with guys is more stable. When you don’t see them for a while they never ask why you didn’t contact them, or make a big deal about it. It is just ok. On the other hand, guys won’t contact you often as well (at least ‘my’ guys won’t ;)). So I can easily take them for granted, which I really shouldn’t. They’re my friends and deserve attention too! Besides they’re fun!

I was looking through my list of things here on 43T and I had forgotten about this goal totally, but it doesn’t matter, because I’ve been working on it without knowing it. I still try to see a friend every week and I must admit that it is going well. I’ve moved back to the ‘city’ (in my opinion, the Netherlands only has two real cities, but other people seem to think otherwise ;)) in which my school is, so I’m much closer to my friends then I was with my previous internship (I did that in Rotterdam and the friend that lived closest was an hour away by public transport). Now I’ve got three close friends living about 10 minutes away :). On the weekends I still go ‘home’ to see my father, boyfriend and I try to meet with the friends that still live there.

Some of my friends live far away and we’re all busy with our own things, so I don’t see them as often as I (and they) would want, but that is inevitable in life, since we all went somewhere else to pursue our own studies and careers. I do talk to them every once in a while by phone or e-mail and we’re always trying to set a date to meet. I guess that is as good as it gets, but I’m happy I manage to see them a couple of times a year. Besides, then we got a lot to chat about :P.

Also I’ve stopped putting energy in friendships that are not worth it. Some friends just don’t seem very interested in me and my life anymore and when we meet it is always because I arranged it. I know that you can’t be friends with everone forever and I should not try to stick to how things were 10 years ago. Sometimes you loose old friends, but you also gain new ones. I’m glad I do see that now, it saves a lot of energy for the friends that do want to see me.

Well, I am marking this goal as done. I’m happy with the way things are between me and my friends now. Sometimes I see them a couple of times a week and sometimes I have a week where I’m busy and don’t see any friends. I just should be a bit flexible about it and take it as it comes. At least I’ve always got new ideas and things to do with them, so I’ll be fine :).

I went to a theme park with some friends last weekend of april. Man, was it fun! I hadn’t been to a theme park for a long time. So it was loads of fun, not only discovering the rollercoasters and other attractions, but also the girls. we hadn’t done anything like this with the 4 of us before, but I can say it was really nice. We laughed quite a bit! On the photo we’re trying to take a good photo of us lying in the grass, but the sun was so bright we all ended up with our eyes closed. We’re planning a new trip as we speak.

My internship really has a bad influence on my social life. It is no longer possible to see one friend a week. I do try to see as much friends as possible though. So, I still feel that I’m doing better on this goal then I was a year ago. I try to call my friends more often too!

I’ve been seeing at least one friend a week for the past months. Often I even saw more friends :). This really makes me happy, because friends are important. I want to keep this up. I think I’ll see how it goes the next two months and if I still see at least one friend a week, I’m going to mark this as done :).

This week I saw two of my friends again :D. On both occassions I had such a good time. The first time we went for a bikeride along the river here, which was really cool! We also took some pictures (not this one), but I don’t have them yet. We were really lucky the weather did stay nice. After that we cooked some dinner (ok ok, I didn’t do that much ;)) and had a nice chat. I always enjoy chatting to friends! Second time meeting a friend this week was cool too. I hadn’t seen her for a couple of months, due to holiday and us being busy. We took some crazy pics (yeah, the one I attached here is still pretty normal ;)) and we laughed so much. It turns out she has a new boyfriend who studies the same as I do. Don’t know him though, he is one year ahead of me, but I’m sure gonna keep my eye open at school ;). I almost forgot how important friends are, but now I remember, this all is really worth it!

Is to see at least one of my friends once a week. I started this in september, and past two weeks I have been seeing one friend, x_Seraphina_X. This week I also have an appointment with one of my friends, so this has started to take off again. I’ve also started calling my friends more often, because I always think that is nice, so much nicer than e-mailing and I’m putting my phone minutes to a good use. You’ll end up paying for them anyway ;). Anyway, I’m happy this is going the right way again, because friends are really important to me.

calling some of my friends, but they did not answer :(. Ah well, I’ll try again, I guess they were busy :). I promised myself to call my friends more often, so I’m going to keep myself to that!

Am I asking myself. Ok, first off let me say that I do see my friends. It is just I don’t see them as much as I want too. We all moved to different cities in pursuit of our own dreams, but I remember a time where we would regularly meet, take pictures with an disposable camera. Waited until the pics were ready and saw what had become of them. That time isn’t that long ago, I guess a year or 3? We did live in different cities then already, somehow everyone is busy with other things right now. To be honest I am too, but I’ll try to have more lunch or dinner ‘dates’ with my friends that live close.