NOT see or contact him in any way/any form for 60 days

Damn… I did it! But I’m not going to beat myself up over it… just going to start the countdown all over.

Duchess… I appreciate the tough love but it doesn’t apply entirely in my case. Our problems were not about other people.. he wasn’t screwing anyone else, he was just extremely neglectful. It’s not an abusive relationship that I’m trying to extract myself from… it’s simply unheathy and I deserve something more…. we all do!

I do agree with one part of what you had to say… if you let a man treat you like garbage….. pretty soon that’s how you start to see yourself.

Thank you all for the support.

I’m a little past the two week mark and IT ISN’T GETTING ANY EASIER! WTF!! I so want to put this all behind me and at the same time I so want him back in my life.

Hang in there everyone! This sucks!!

It’s been 11 days, 12 if I can make it thru today. Help!! Someone tell me why I can’t call him again?
I don’t know what the hell is going on, I made it through V-Day with less of a problem than I expected… not that it was a walk in the park but I made it!! Even this morning I noticed suddenly that I hadn’t thought of him for a couple of hours and even congratulated myself for all the good work and thought that maybe it was finally working and that this time I was finally going to purge all traces of him.

And now….. omigod, I don’t know what’s happened, I can’t concentrate and I can’t get him out of my mind. I’m fighting the urge to contact him with everything I’ve got but I’m worried. I keep having agruments with myself!! It wasn’t a real firm breakup… it was a fight and I chose to bow out and just stopped all contact. I’ve been down this road many times before but it’s never been longer than 2 or 3 days. The way it usually works is I talk to him, he’s pissed off for a while somehow it always ends up being my fault when we both know it wasn’t and I accept less…. I settle and again the relationship remains on his terms. After a couple of months things are back to “normal” then the cycle starts all over again. I really do want off the merry-go-round but….. oh my, when it is good, it’s soooo good!!

Help!!

From today’s posts, looks like it’s a very bad day all around!! Wish I had something wonderful to write to help all of us but…......
Just looking forward to tomrrow…. anything has got to better than today!
Emily’s right… fuck V-Day!

It’s not the 7 days that I’ve not contacted him that’s so bothersome to me today, it’s the 2 days since his last email! Arrrrgggghhh! The longer the time between his email or phone call or IM or whatever (yes, I’ve been good and ignored them all) the more he invades my thoughts.
Has anyone tried journaling? I’ve avoided it fearing that it will just plant him more firmly in my mind instead of purging him which I believe is the idea behind journaling. Any thoughts?

Hi everyone, I’m joining your ranks today. Won’t bore you with the details; my five year relationship has ended and I’m going to take all the best advice I can find to get over it as quickly and painlessly as possible. It’s been 7 days since I last contacted him, I’ve not responded to two emails he’s sent and that has taken more will power than I thought it would. Of course, during that 7 days I cannot begin to count the number of times I’ve picked up the phone without dialing or the number of emails I’ve written and deleted.
This is a road I’ve been down before with him, several times and we always get back together…. on his terms, of course. I just can’t do it anymore so I’m going to try really hard to get him out of my heart once and put a stop to the maddness.
I try to keep him out of my mind but thoughts of him keep creeping in. A big obstacle right now is I find my mind wandering to fantasies of another reconciliation…. I’m having a hard time really and truly “accepting” in my heart of hearts that it is really over this time. I need to find that real acceptance, right now it feels a little like I’m faking it. I welcome any advice you may have for me.
I need to do this, I want to do this but then there is that little voice deep inside that still fights it and wishes it would all magically be good again.