self-actualize

Again a lfe long goal.

Let your experience say what truly you feel.Dont feel what others tell you that you should feel.

Self-actualization can start only when we have healthy and strong character.I find that we can have strength of character only when we are loved by our friends and others.Only then we have the strength to stand for truth in the face of opposition.I had not realized this aspect of love so clearly as i did it today.

To Self-actualize means to be true to your own nature.If you are a musician by nature , then you must make music.You have a need to actualize in what you are potentially.The need to self-actualize emerges only upon some prior satisfaction of the physiological,safety , love and esteem needs.A person without love or with low self-esteem cannot feel the need to self-actualize…............I wonder if i am really ready for the need to self-actualize.i can make progress on this goal only when there is substantial progress on other goals.

1.Humans in the universe are more alike than one would think at first.Ends or goals in themselves are far more universal than the roads taken to achieve those goals.Perhaps that is why , 43 things is so popular.
2.It is important to understand three things:
a)The nature of individuals.b)The nature of the world.c) The situation or environment around us.
3.Maintaining integration(behaving as integrating whole) in view of challenging problems is important towards self-actualization.
4.Never give up ,never allow hopelessness to take you over.Otherwise you cannot self-actualize.
5.Believe in the possibility of attainment of your goals(on 43 things and elsewhere)
6.Try to understand your sub-conscious impulses(Id , as Freud would call these).
7.Be healthy and seek out the company of healthy people.Healthy(physically and psychically)persons have better chances of self-actualization.

`self-actualization does not occur in young people.In our culture at least,youngsters have not yet achieved identity, or autonomy, nor have they had time enough to experience an enduring , loyal ,post-romantic love relationship,nor have they generally found their calling,the altar upon which to offer themselves.Nor have they worked outtheir OWN system of values;nor have they had experience enough(responsibility for others,tragedy ,failure,achievement,success)to shed perfectionist illusions and become realistic;nor have they generally made their peace with death;nor have they learnt how to be patient nor have they learned enough about evil in themselves and others to be compassionate;nor have they had time to become post-ambivalent about parents and elders,power and authority;nor have theybecome knowledeable and educated enough to open the possibility of becoming wise;nor have they generally acquired enough courage to be unpopular,to be unashamed about being openly virtuous,etc.’
My questions:
1 Do you agree that we GENERALLY find our calling after say 40?
2.Do we find our OWN system of values around 40?
3Do we shed our perfectionist illusions and become realistic when we reach around 40?
4Do we learn how to be patient when we are old enough?
5Does the possibility of becoming wise open to us after we cross 40?
6.Do we acquire enough courage to be unpopular to be unashamed to be openly virtuous when we near 40 or later?

To actualize self , one has to love oneself.You can realize only what you love.i have set loving myself as the first sub goal of self actualization.

striving to find a meaning in life is one of the methods to reach self-actualization.Whether we are happy or miserable,life has a meaning.By ceaselessly trying to reach this meaning,we gradually advance towards the goal of self-actualization.

Issue is not that i want to self-actualize.Issue is how to achieve this state.It is like activating yourself to realize your potential.Why dont we achieve it automatically?what are the obstacles in our way to self-actualization?

When i wrote my mission statement,i found i wanted to make certain changes in the world around me.However this slowly made me realize that i need to change myself also to fulfill my mission.That’s how i decided to have self actualization as my goal.But i sometimes feel that self actualization is only a means to realize my mission which is embedded in society and others.