My mother and I aren’t speaking. She has a drinking problem, and I am the only one in my family that will stand up to her about it. My brothers know that she has a problem but don’t say anything. Her brothers and mother won’t either. Then, whenever I say anything about it in front of other people they say that she is a grown woman and can make her own decisions, yet when I say something to them about it away from her they all acknowledge that she has a problem. So when, I ask, is a good time for me to press the issue? When she is in jail for a DUI, is fired because she always shows up to work hungover, or when she needs a new liver? It is an unbearable amount of weight to bear, so I stopped talking to her thinking that would show her how it hurts me to see her doing this to herself. She calls…not to apologize, but to tell me about the new crack head she is dating. She doesn’t ask about me and my life, and if I tried to tell her she would find some way to make me feel like crap about it.
I already have one sibling that committed suicide and I’m pretty sure I’m on my way to another. He has not had an actual friend for 6 years. Come to think of it, he stopped socializing right around the time that my parents got divorced. He is now 19 with no friends, no girlfriends ever, and has never even been kissed (not even a peck). He claims that he just hates everyone. He has just not liked anyone in 6 years. I think something is terribly wrong, but my mother just drinks and focuses on herself and my father is doing his thing with his new family. I want to give up on them, but I know I can’t. I don’t know how to fix it.
