stop being a pleaser but still values relationship

When I wrote this thing to do, I was very firm that I wanted to do it. It stemmed from reading a book about building confidence in public speaking. It says that our fear of public speaking roots from our fear of rejection. And beacuse of that fear, we tend to please everyone. I am not sure if that’s my case. However, I felt that I wanted to please people more and more, that’s why I decided to stop it once and for all. But lately, I seemed to be forgetting this resolution. It’s time to exet more effort on this.