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Rae is doing 34 things including…

write a book

15 cheers


Rae has written 6 entries about this goal

Who would write a book then give it away? This guy!

As some of you know, I’ve spent the better part of last year preparing a memoir about the past 10 years of my adult life. And if you didn’t know, now you do.

Long story short, I decided to write this book after sharing some of my past experiences with friends via Facebook. At first, it was only intended to be shared amongst my friends, but when I noticed friends were sharing some of my ideas and excerpts amongst their own social groups, whom also seemed to enjoy the posts, I realized I might have something worth writing and sharing after all. So I began drafting a more in-depth manuscript (which I am still working on by the way), that I wanted to have completed by end of this year, beginning of the next, and distributed as a self-publisher via Amazon.

Over the past few months I must have re-written part of the book several times over. Largely, because it didn’t read like something one might pick up and purchase from a book store. I felt it lacked a marketable tone (whatever that is), and so, I’ve spent more time revising the few chapters I’ve written, than I have actually completing the book. Well at least I did, because last week I decided I’m not going to distribute the book via Amazon. In fact, I’m not even going to sell it. I’m going to write it and give it away.

“You’re a damned fool!”, is one of the many comments friends have thrown my way since I broke the news via Facebook. While I do understand where they’re coming from, I believe this is the best course of action for me. “What if it becomes a hit!? Think of all the money you’ll be missing out on!!”, came from one of my closest friends this past Thursday. I won’t lie and say that It would be nice to write something that becomes a national bestseller. The royalties would greatly be appreciated! So why am I planning to give it away? Because I believe my story will help someone find the answers they’re looking for about life, about bettering themselves, or about improving their circumstances.

“You’re fucking crazy, dude!” Yep. Heard that one too. But it’s the truth. I really believe my story can positively impact someone’s life, and I feel that by slapping a $10 price tag on the book, might discourage them from reading it. As I’ve said before, the royalties from a successful book would be more than welcomed, but I’m not writing this book to see my name in lights, for accolades or a royalty check. I just want to share what I’ve been through. Though I do believe it will help someone else with their own troubles, and as selfish as this may sound, I’m writing this memoir for me. Because I want to see it through. Because 10 years from now, I imagine myself walking the streets of New York and seeing someone reading a copy of my book as they wait for the subway, and know that I wrote that. It’s the feeling of knowing I contributed something that made people smile. That’s worth more than money to me. And though many of my friends believe I’ve gone off the deep end with this line of thinking, I do believe this is the best course of action for me, and my potential readers. Besides, there are no guarantees that my memoir will become a bestseller, and I’m going to make a decision off an anticipation of making it big.

I want my memoir to be the start of a new chapter of my life, and what better way to do that than with an act of selflessness.

Memoir Excerpt - 2/14/2013

There are probably a million and one things I regret in my past –and for a time, I hated myself for everyone of them. I unnecessarily burdened myself with an exorbitant amount of guilt and shame, all because I felt I deserved it. That it was my reward for failure. Was I being too hard on myself? Yes –and I still am. The only difference between now and then is that now, I don’t shun my mistakes, I embrace them. I’ve learned to be thankful for all of the bad in my life, and in doing so, I’ve opened my eyes to all of the wonderful and amazing things about myself that had been completely overlooked because I wasn’t paying attention. That there were any number of things –good things– about myself that I had never realized before. Our lives are entirely what we make them out to be, and once I stopped complicating it for myself, my life became so much more easier. It’s never too late to learn, therefore, it’s never too late to change.

Trust My Instincts (Excerpt From "Limitless" Ebook)

[Excerpt from my upcoming ebook: Limitless (Working Title)]

Below is an excerpt from an ebook I’m writing titled “Limitless”. It’s a collection of ideals, beliefs, and experiences gathered from my journals. It was in response to a few friends asking me “how I did it”, in terms of some of the things I’ve accomplished and made possible for myself thus far in my life.

Enjoy the excerpt.

For the better part of this year, I’ve been questioning myself on a number of things. Whether writing a blog was in my best interests. Whether quitting my part time job was a financially responsible decision, considering my alternate sources of income produce inconsistent returns at best.

These decisions, as well as a few others, have plagued my mind and caused me doubt, if only for a brief second, whether or not I was pursuing something worth while or frivolously chasing the immature desires of my heart. Having trusted my instincts I have found a website that has positioned me to follow through with a number of goals I may not have other wise followed through with had it not been for the support and encouragement of its members. Something that would have never happened gad I not trusted my gut that it was time to follow my heart’s desires and look for more unconventional ways to help and support as many people possible in my lifetime.

When I look back on my life, I’ve trusted my instincts for a number of things. Buying and selling investments, making decisions at work and with home business, choosing friends and the people in my social circles, utilizing credit and even with helping friends resolve their own problems. But I’ve always been particularly hesitant to trust my instincts for anything that solely benefits myself.

Like my memoir, and the decision to leave my part time job, I was hesitant to both make and commit to a final decision. Eventually I did get over this fear, which took a considerable amount of deliberation when it shouldn’t have. When you think about some of the greatest artists, athletes, CEO’s even middle class mothers, they all have the ability to trust their instincts. I’m sure they have doubts here and there, but for the most part they follow their gut and pursue the line of action they believe to be the best decision that will likely lead to the best outcome. They are content with their decisions, and often times, these decisions yield a better life for their decision makers in the long run.

I say all of that to say but only this: To live simply I need to trust my instincts more. They haven’t led me astray in the past professional, so there’s no reason to believe they will do so in my personal life. I will learn to trust my instincts.

Chapter One is almost complete!!

I don’t want to jinx myself but I am almost ready to say that the first chapter of my book is done. It’s only a second draft, not the finished product, but even still. I’m nearly there. Which is good, because I’m right on schedule. I had hoped to have at least 4 chapters completed by Christmas, and if I keep at my current pace, I’ll definitely hit that mark!

Ideas to help me write...

Lately I’ve been having a bit of trouble trying to decide what else I want to include in my memoir. I have a few key experiences to write about, but these alone won’t make a complete book. A friend suggested that I think about something in my life and write about it. Doesn’t matter what it is, just write about it, and before lone, I should have enough content to fill in the gaps of my memoir. An ingenious idea, yet so simple and so far into the realm of common sense I wonder why I never thought of it before. (Don’t answer that…)

So what I will do, is post one entry a week (minimum) about my past and by the end of the year, I will have a good portion of my memoir completed. I’ll post the first entry tonight.

The Untitled Memoir

I’ve been reviewing my old journals to write a series of short memoirs about my life. I’m hoping to have the first completed by next summer, and the second by the following year.

Rae has gotten 15 cheers on this goal.


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