I want to feel Invisible line between Self respect and ego

I heared last week somebody was calling me arrogant..reason behind that I did not succumb to his unjustified,unruly, most impractical demands..his vanity was hurt..He tried to damge me in official manner but I never begged upon.He was giving me constant calls,firstly I refused politely to take those calls then I ignored in fear of loosing my patience and insulting him.. Now he is spreading rumors and spitting vanom against me. This is affecting me as I am a common human being but I have closed my eyes and ears to it..

Should I blame again that my boss was the reason..by all honesty yes! Now when the things are settled and we had reached on a conclusion that we would make good friends always..commitments were made to ensure each other..But now another thing has been developed,since he is new to my office,he wanted my support to know each thing..persons,work etc. etc.Can you imagine how the things took shape..In the morning when office hours begin he calls me ..We discuss things over a cup of tea..(He has literally done a tremendous change in staff position..took some hard core decision to make working smooth). After fifteen minutes or more he would call me again for discussions on some files. I know he is relying me and have faith and confidence on me that I would never betray him. But..sigh..I don’t have time for myself..Even in lunch hours he would wait impatiently to get it over as fast as it can..My other office colleagues( my lunch partners and friends) make complaints for being ignored..At last when I reach home after eight or nine continuance working hours my mind buzz,I feel so tired that I fall like a dead log. I have never done this much work in my life time..Although it is giving me importance,respect in every aspect (sometimes angry whispers also,when someone is not happy about the decision taken)But I am happy that my life was to take an ugly drift..I saved it. Now my inner self is satisfied that I have taken a right decision..and enjoying my life(at the cost of ignoring my favorite website)..

Last weak was tough for me..One of my seniors blamed me to become more arrogant while I was only trying upto save my self respect..( I find this person pest as he does nothing just wastes his time in talking nonsense on religion, god..) he was trying to destroy my self respect continuously. I have stopped going to him even I tried to ignore his phone calls.

I talked to a elavated soul,we took out so many nice subjects. In our discussion we suddenly have started talking on ego,self respect,vanity..then he gave me real enlightening thoughts he told that where ego brings our fears out,self respect is fearless.,he further explained we usually try to cover ourselves with false ego walls in the fear of exposure but we just simply be ‘we’ with ful of honesty when our self respect comes in danger almost free of fear.What do you say? Can you throw some light..

I feel that I am making all conscious efforts to protect my self respect. I become alert to take any help, which can hurt my self respect,but in this course I realise that people are taking me as an egoist person..This is realy confusing..Where is that invisible line,when self respect converts in ego.