I’ve just realised that this goal to become who I am is intricately linked to my goal of changing my life. I wouldn’t exactly want to change my life so that I can become more alienated from myself. And becoming who I am, my essential self, can only be about looking deep inside, getting rid of the distracting and useless mind chatter, operating more often on the level of my best self than not, and loving the contradictory, contrasting, and even contrary human mass that is me. And that is part of the tricky bit – the falling in love with self.
brannen has written 19 entries about this goal
We are made out of oppositions; we live between two poles you don’t reconcile the poles, you just recognize them.”
- Orson Welles
Today I am enjoying my achievements and remembering the peace that there is in silence.
I’ve tended not to enjoy my achievements too much in the past, going quite rapidly from celebration to self-criticism mode, identifying ways in which what I did could be better, and generally devaluing myself. But today, I slipped into feeling good about the final product mode and managed to stay there. It feels good to feel good and to have effectively blocked out one bit of negative chatter, without actively trying at that moment. I’ve been working at quieting and neutralising some of the mood monsters in my head – I just may have taken a step forward.
When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.
Lao Tzu (c.604 – 531 B.C.)
Embrace the responsibility
It is not anyone else’s job to make you happy or fulfilled. What you choose to be is what matters.
When life is not going your way, there is nothing of value to be gained by looking for someone to blame. Instead, move beyond what has already happened and get busy exploring the positive possibilities available to you.
If you experience a disappointment or even a serious setback, that is no reason to give up hope. Though life is certainly not perfect, you are completely capable of moving forward no matter what may have happened before.
Happiness will come to you when it comes from you. Success will be yours when you choose to take responsibility for making it so.
Instead of obsessing over who might have hurt you or why or how, decide to get on with life. Instead of putting your energy into resentment, put that energy into creating meaningful greatness.
Your life is yours to live. Embrace the responsibility and all that goes with it, and your days will be filled with true richness.
We are the products of editing, rather than authorship.”
- George Wald
I would like to think I am a bit of both, but trying to do less on the editing side these days.
Someone gave it to me while I was in high school and it hung on my wall for years. I hadn’t thought about it until reading one of $]’s posts just now. It is a good reminder for me of what is essential in life.
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Strive to be happy.
Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.
This wasn’t meant to be a repository of inspirational quotes, but since I am not managing to write down in my journal the quotes that I come across that move me, I figure this is a good place for storing a few things that inspire me. At least for the time being.
Thanks again, E for passing this one on to me.
“Choose to live for, rather than against. Focus on what you love and not on any kind of hate.
Practice genuine, cleansing forgiveness, and let the burden of resentment fall softly away. Remind yourself that worry accomplishes nothing worthwhile, and give your awareness to more productive pursuits.
Put your energy into building what is creative, valuable and empowering. And you won’t have to constantly fight against what is destructive and draining.
Concern yourself more with accepting responsibility than with assigning blame. Let the possibilities inspire you more than the obstacles discourage you.
You have so very much to live for. Look at each twist and turn in the road with a grateful heart, and you’ll find real treasure in every direction.
Live your days on the positive side of life, in tune with your most treasured values. And in each moment you’ll have much to live for.”
Let go of your attachment to what has already happened. And make room in your life to create the very best that can be.
“Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it: Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”
I didn’t really mean for this goal to have a series of quotes, but there you go. Or there I go, rather. This quote is one I knew but had forgotten. Thanks 43T quote-bot.
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