have more friends

So I’ve taken my personality profile again recently. Turns out that I’m still an INTJ. (For those of who don’t know what I’m talking about, Look up the MBTI profile or go to www.personalitypage.com/INTJ.html, (humanmetrics.com to take the test)).

Yes, unfortunately as an INTJ that means that I love logic, theory, ponderance, and math and science, but being Introverted, relationships aren’t of great importance to me…meaning that I’d rather be alone in my own mind to strategize and think.

Sigh, but even worse, the TJ (thinking and juding) means that the opposite Feeling and Perceiving (meaning havining emotional connections and reading body language) isn’t something that comes naturally to me, or comes of a real importance.

So what should I do?? Stick to my own intj people? Fight against myself and talk about stuff that doesn’t interest me just to have some human interaction? My wife is a ENSF—big time emotional socializer…so you can imagine the stuff that happens in our house..one thing can set her into a ball of tears, while I won’t pick up on what I said wrong.

Hmm..oh well.this goal sticks around still.

I know alot of people already know good friends are hard to come by, but really…how hard is it? I think that my pool of friends has virtually dried up. Some moved, alot had kids, but i think mostly, they were “convenience friends”. They were there to hang out, but not really if you had a problem. They were ready to go to the club, but not listen…

I did have one set of really great friends, but they decided they didn’t want to be friends any more…hmm..

But I think that I have all the great attributes of being a good friend. I just am not great about talking to new people…unless I’m drunk.

But I have been making new friends, and spending time. If they’re the convenience type or someone we can really have a conversation about anything is yet to be said..