Live my life without regret

Unfortunately living without regret is impossible. But what is possible is learning how to deal with that regret. I wanted to make ammends with my ex-girlfriend. She had something else in mind, which seems to be like pre-meditative anger over a false accusation. But I am learning how to cope with. I won’t deny that many if not most of the problems in the relationship were of my doing, but altogether I believe I am learning a lesson here. Sometimes in order to let go of something we have to hold onto it first. We need that sense of ownership before we can loosen it. This is probably the same with emotions though I am no expert. But I believe we need to hold on to our hurt, feel it and own it, and then we can loosen it, hopefully in more constructive ways. I still want to be on good speaking terms with my ex, but I don’t believe now is a good time, as she has had quite an attitude problem, and I have been a train-wreck. We were both feeling emotionally unstable. This is not a good time to try and make ammends. Living without regret may be the ideal, but I don’t think its possible.