It took me quite a while to feel fully accomplished, and well… I can honestly say, I’m not fully accomplished with this goal. But who is, really? I think this is a forever ongoing task. What I do know is I’ve grown so much since I first added this to my list.
I originally added this goal because I blamed myself for the man I was in love with for no longer being in love with me… I think back now and laugh. I can not change the way he feels, it is what it is. Everything in life happens for a reason, I know that now. One year later after having my heart broken into a million pieces, I fell in love again.. and 3 months later, I’m engaged, and in August 2008 I’ll be getting married to the most amazing man I know. Absolutely insane!
I was willing to accept the things I cannot change. I had the courage to change the things I can change… I changed the way I thought about myself. I stopped hating myself and I finally started to live for myself. I learned how to love myself… I always believed that no one else can truly love you until you first truly love yourself. I believe in that 100% now. I’m glad I made this one of my top goals, because w/out it in the back of my mind, I probably wouldn’t have kept pushing myself…
Like I said, I’m marking this off… but life will always through twists and turns that will keep life interesting. I’ll always be questioning whether or not I should accept something I can not change, and I always question if I have the courage to make a make changes.
Good luck to all of you.
I’ve come really far with this goal over the last 9 months. I live by the quote “You can not make anyone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved, the rest is up to them.”
I knew there was nothing I could do to change the mind of the man who broke my heart… but even if there was something, do I really want to be with someone who hurt me so bad? No, not at all, I deserve better then that. So I changed things I was unhappy about.. Now I’m soo happy. I have an amazing job that allows me to travel the world. Just thinking of my future and all the places and things I’ll be able to experience gives me goose bumps. I’m perfectly content being single.
I can not mark this goal as complete yet. I feel like I’m halfway there. Now, I need to really and truly focus on my health. I can change the way I eat and I can change patterns in exercise, it’s up to me to make that change.
I think I’m finally starting to understand this goal. When I added it, I knew that there were changes in my life that I needed to make. The hard part is, making those changes and doing it for myself. I know I can not change the past. I know that I can not make anyone love me or change the way someone feels.
I know I can change the things that I don’t like in my life. I know I can be happy. I finally started living in the present, I finally living for myself. I hated my last job and felt like I was stuck there. But I had the courage to find a new one, one that I like/enjoy, and I made that decision on my own. I made it for myself, not for anyone else.
I’m proud of myself.