be more assertive

Have found that saying no to people sometimes is no big deal, and confidence and assertiveness is more attractive than being all wishy-washy like I have been for so long. I’m not sure why or how I got that way, but I really make an effort now to live my life the way I want, not just for others. Nobody appreciates that anyway, so why do it??!!

The irony is that I often unwittingly offend people with my sense of humour, yet I have no guts when it comes to asserting myself because I don’t like to upset people.