Improve my self-esteem

Self-confidence isn’t like a trait, such as blue eyes or blond hair. Self-confidence is achieved by acting like you have self-confidence. You have to do more than say you have self-confidence, too. Acting self confident makes you feel self-confidence and reciprocates back to the self-confident act even more.

“Self-confidence is the observable portion of your self-esteem. Interestingly enough, the two feedback and reinforce each other.” Perhaps acting self-confident will improve your self-esteem as well.

Sounds too simple. Sounds like a cop out. But maybe it’s not. The mind is a powerful thing. You especially know this if you’ve had one of those dreams where you experience something happen and then a few weeks later it happens and you have kind of a deja vu moment. (Does anyone else do that too or am I just superhuman? It’s creepy as hell)

I’m going to try this and I’ll report back in a week or so. If you’re reading this, try it too. I know it sounds hard, but if you think it’s hard and you can’t do it, you’re right. Get a friend to help you along, and if necessary, send me a message and I’ll come out and give you a hug. :)

I’ve never really been the kind of person to have extreme confidence and really stand up for myself when it comes to what I believe in. I’ve decided it’s time to do something about that. As I’ve mentioned in a previous post on a different topic, you can’t make progress on something unless you truly want to accomplish it. If you can’t bring yourself to do it, you don’t really want to accomplish it.

While reading other posts on here, I was thinking that a better name for self esteem would be “self acceptance”. A lot of people mention the things about themselves that they don’t like (e.g. a few pounds overweight, not in the best shape). Many of those things are in your immediate control and some take a little more effort. I do think changing these things will help your self esteem as well when you get them tackled. But I think a more immediate approach to correcting self esteem problems would be to “accept” the things about you that you don’t like. Learn to love the things about you that aren’t perfect. I think if you do this, you’ll find that your problems are merely perceptions. I’m going to start acting everyday as if there’s nothing wrong with me and I’m hoping to get some good results. I’ll report back in a week or two.