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colanderman in Worcester is doing 29 things including…

live my life on my own terms, not trying to live up to the expectations of others

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colanderman has written 4 entries about this goal

Still working

on finding by own terms, but I bet they involve doing something that

- I care about
- I’m good at
- I enjoy

At least, I think that’s the secret to making a difference in the world. We’ll see how it turns out.



My biggest trouble...

is I’m still not sure what my own terms are.

I have a pretty good idea, but…

not 100% sure.

Am working on figuring this out.



OK

here is an instance of this! So I play in the church choir on campus, I have on & off since… sophomore? or junior year (I am now a 2nd year grad student). When the old choir director left I took up the reins because I was able and it was something I wanted to do.

Since then the choir has gone through many members, the choir directorship has passed to different people, and I have stopped and started coming a couple times. But my ability to lead the choir has stayed with me.

And with that comes the expectation that I should lead.

At least, that’s what I feel… that the other members tend to rely on me to pull everything together. I don’t do most of the organizational tasks (picking out music, sending out e-mails, leading rehearsals, etc.) but I still am the one who has to “save the day” by jumping on piano when the guitarist doesn’t show (I’m supposed to be on bass), singing lead (I’m not very good but no-one else is loud enough), transposing/composing on the spot when music is missing, etc.

It’s not that I don’t like doing these things… I mean, I’m good at them, I enjoy them… I shouldn’t be complaining about that (and I’m not). And I shouldn’t say that I have to… because I don’t. But, because I can, I feel the obligation to do so when the need arises. How can I stand back and do nothing when only four people show up, we don’t start rehearsing until 20 mins before mass, and no-one plays a rhythm instrument or sings lead?

I need to think about this more.



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This has always been a problem for me, because I like making people happy. And what better way to make someone happy than to live up to their expectations? (I know this isn’t true but this is how my mind is wired.)

I’ve been doing good with this as of late but recently I got accepted to the PhD program at Brown. Which is where my Master’s thesis advisor wants me to go, and is where her husband (who is also my advisor) works. Now I didn’t apply there because I was expected to (I wanted to work with this person at Brown since before I knew he was married to my current advisor), but I’m afraid that while I’m there I may fall into the trap of living up to his expectations. So I have to keep in mind the thin line between heeding his advice (which is wise), and doing what he wants just to make him happy.

They both have suggested I start working on PhD research this summer. But, there are other things I want to do this summer, that I might never get a chance to do again. I think, I am going to do those things. PhD stuff can wait a few months.



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