do new things alone

why is it that I find it so important to do new things alone? Ok, so I haven’t fulfilled the goals that I set out for myself last month. I was about to go to swing dancing class last week, but then was behind on other things. I don’t want to commit to a toastmaster’s weekly meeting schedule now because I don’t know what my schedule will be like in the new year. I’m not making it a priority. I keep on finding excuses. Is a security blanket necessarily bad? It’s not as bad as my posititon right now, not even having a blanket to fall back on and making excuses for doing things on my own.

By the end of this month, October 2005, I will have either (or both!) gone to (i) swing dancing drop in lessons, or (ii) a Toastmasters meeting alone. I have all the information at hand, and now I just have to work up enough courage to go for it. The best part is, I’ll not only be well on my way towards this goal, but I’ll be accomplishing another goal on my 43things list too.

And if I completely punk out? I’ll have the shame that is my progress recorded permanently on 43T.

I want to try out so many new things, but often I am deterred by the fact that I can’t get anyone to come out with me. Going out and doing new things alone is empowering- it gives you more confidence, even if you don’t feel it, and allows you to open up and meet new people much more easily.

I’d like to be able to CONFIDENTLY try things that I want to try (however scared I am to take the first step) by myself, without giving a second thought to asking a friend to come with me and be a security blanket.