I am so tired of people telling me I think too much and I worry too much. That just makes me think (and worry) more. Then I accuse myself of thinking and worrying too much, and worry and think about that some more. This then causes more thinking, and as a result, worrying.
Here’s a better idea. Just think as much as I’m going to think, and not beat myself up about it, then I will inadvertently end up thinking LESS!
Mindfullness meditation helped teach me this. They do practices where you kind of just let your thoughts wash over you or past you, and you sit back and observe them like a fly on the wall, then just feel what you feel. The absence of thinking about thinking about thinking spiralling into a limitless abyss that comes from beating yourself up about thinking too much, worrying too much, or feeling the ‘wrong’ things, or being negative, means that as a net result you think/worry/feel bad etc. less. Hoorah! In some ways it’s just abotu having realistic expectations.