Crystie in Charleston is doing 40 things including…

love myself for who I am, be loved and give love

12 cheers

 

Crystie has written 2 entries about this goal

Hmmmmm 3 years ago

My awards ceremony for my Master’s program was yesterday afternoon, just before graduation. And I RSVP’d, and invited my cooperating teacher as well, and went.

And then I sat there, extremely upset that I wasn’t getting any of the awards. I worked my butt off, got two B’s my first semester, and as a result did not have a 4.0 and did not get any awards. The two girls who were loved by all the teachers and were given A’s in some classes that were hard (that’s the jealousy talkin’ – they are actually quite brilliant) got the awards for outstanding students.

And then – I had a REALLY high praxis II score, but someone else beat me by just a few points – and she got an award for that too! (She was one of the 4.0’s).

Oh – and they actually gave away a book lover’s award – for the student who most loved books. Um – the people who gave that award away were never my professors, cause I kept getting the adjuncts for some reason. . . and so they didn’t pick me. Who could love books MORE than me? I go to the library weekly, I buy books off Amazon.com more often than I buy food (when I have an income), I read over 100 books last year, will probably read as many this year, took all of my electives in the program in literacy courses. . . heck – I’ve even WRITTEN a book (thank you, NaNoWriMo!)

So I was sitting there, regretting even having shown up. . . and then I realized how stupid I was being. We can’t all win awards, because then they wouldn’t mean anything. And I don’t have to be the winner – I just have to respect and love myself for having done MY best.

I got a good GPA (much higher than my undergrad), I worked my butt off (unlike in undergrad – I actually DID the readings), and I actually completed the degree. AND I got a job – even before graduation!

I have to be proud of myself for what I’ve done, and not judge myself by what others have done.



Not as easy as it may sound 3 years ago

but also not as difficult either.

For instance – I love my weird sense of humor, and I love that I don’t really try to hide my geekiness from the world. I doubt I’ll ever reach the point where I love everything about myself – but that’s probably a good thing.

As for giving love – I do love my family, and my dog. I need to try and show love towards my friends more often. I’m a bit antisocial at times, and need to be more welcoming.

And receiving love – one day it would be nice to be loved by Mr. Right. For now – I can allow myself to be loved by family, by friends, by my dog, and by God.



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