is one of my strengths. I would like to say I succeeded the first go around but that would not be the truth. I grew up in a domestic violent home and swore that my sons would never experience it. I didn’t however seek help to get past it… so they were exposed because of choices and actions I made.
They have grown into wonderful family men who wouldn’t ever hurt their loved ones with words or actions. I’d like to say it was because I protected them but more than likely they just didn’t want the life I had.
I am older, wiser and no longer codependent so I have a story and empathy for people locked in the world of low self esteem and violence…there is a way out and help for you.
When I met with the Literacy Volunteer Director this week I discovered they are also very active in providing Literacy and Living skills tutoring to other organizations in the community like the Food Bank, The Recovery Centers (half way homes for women re entering the community from rehab)and Juvenile Detention.
I casually said I would love to be a life skills tutor and my hope is to someday help abused women. She said put together a program and she can get my program approved by the shelter for abused women trying to make a new life for themselves and their children.
I should not be surprised.
but I like challenges…so it’s time to start from the beginning and learn what to do in situations like the one I had this week.
My whole plan was to help with self-esteem issues once they are safe…that still maybe where my calling is in this process.
But it was so hard to walk away from that beautiful young woman this week without being able to help her.
Because I was totally out of my league tonight meeting a young woman with 2 black eyes and a boyfriend who was laughing saying she likes it rough.
They were street people visiting here. My friend and I were livid about her black eyes. The girl laughed and said if she didn’t laugh what could she do? Smugly, the guy said she likes it rough so what can you do about it?
I wanted to take him by the scruff of his neck and kick his A**!
However a male friend told me later some women do like it rough….
I am way to soft to cover this issue regardless of what i would like to do…
Are there people who really want to be hit ? Or can I really be Xena and just kick his ass?
I just wanted her to come home with me and protect her from the badness of the world…
to have 2 major projects going at once and do a good job?
Well 3 if you add in my niche business but I can hire others to actually do it when business picks up…afterall, that is the goal for that business.
I’m going to achieve this goal now because I feel the time is right for me to make sweeping positive changes in my life path and get on with things that I have been putting off for whatever reason.
This was an original goal on my 43T life list and has stayed on it for 3 years…must be important.
with being an artist’s way and vein of gold facilitator plus work with people overcoming domestic abuse using “Mastering the Art of Attraction”.
This is soooo exciting!
being a licensed life coach. I had been thinking of this as a volunteer position. I have a very good friend in Texas who is a licensed psychologist (Christian counselor)who had suggested once I worked through the traumas I have experienced over the past 10 years I’d make an excellent counselor to help others.
Maybe I need to look at this more closely.
as a fund raiser for the local crisis center. A friend has signed me up to volunteer for it.
At one point I was going to be a crisis counselor here but needed time to get my life together. Now my life is together here in the wilderness.
I want to start a 12 week Artist’s Way group for women just beyond the crisis stage who have no idea how to change their lives permanently…it worked wonders for a divorce recovery group in Texas. :)
It seems this beautiful young woman dropped out of high school 4 months before graduation and has had 2 babies in 2 years.
Now she is headed for a divorce and her husband’s family is trying to take the children from her. She has been emotionally abused/controlled by them (according to my sister) since day 1.
Have to admit she does need help. For 2 days all she did was sleep and didn’t talk much except to say she doesn’t want to be alone and cry. I told her that she can bring the children and stay with me a while or even just call to talk…nothing will get back to family…all very confidential.
Recovering from emotional abuse is difficult. There are no marks but the scars last a very long time.
with facilitating an Artist’s Way group each 12 weeks, the empowerment seminars, and the affordable housing foundation.
I am not sitting back anymore. The group I was going to volunteer with is a crisis intervention program. I want to work with people, (probably mostly women?)to help them recover their self esteem and find affordable housing for themselves and their families after the immediate crisis is over and they are ready for the next step.