I have learned that this goal is about the depth of the thought and not the time it took me to think about it. It’s about letting my intuition and not my ego be my guide. As long as I clear my mind and detach before I open my mouth, all is well,(or at least as it should be.)
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dancingmom has written 7 entries about this goal
having the courage to speak up. Many times in the past I have talked myself out of doing what I need to do or more so saying what I need to say because I put far too much thought into it. Right now the world is a very uncomfortable place that needs alot of healing. IF we are to do the work that our spirits would have us do we are going to say some very unpopular things that don’t always align with the status quo. It’s time to tell the truth in an enlightened matter. I only hurt myself and enable other people when I don’t allow myself to tap into my truths. That is probably the most draining way to live.
I am truly learning the difference between editing my thoughts, procrastination and avoidance plain and simple. Those things that knaw at me need to be said period.
I am battling with the fact that sometimes you are chosen to be the messenger of a very unpopular message and it is your responsiblitiy to deliver it and move on with your life. Not to be confused with being mean or confused. Simply delivering the truth that comes from the small voice and allowing yourself to grow from that process. It all sounds easy and looks good in print, but once you put the energy of the personality behind it things can become quite messy. All the same the action is required.
I believe I can mark this goal as done although it is a tricky one to complete. I believe that somethings take action and you can definitely think too long. The key here is to speak from the soul and not have a knee jerk reaction. I have learned sometimes I will be led to speak immediately and sometimes not. My goal is to say what I am guided to say and not what I want to hear myself say.
I don’t know what it is about my 15yr old son, he is the one person who challenges my ability to attain this goal. Geez! His presence has a way of loosening my lips so that unwanted thoughts just have a tendency to slip right out. I hate slippage! He went to Washington with a good friend of mine and her daughter for 4 days. After the trip my friend tells me that my son refused to take a shower the whole time he was there. Mind you the temperature reached 100 degrees f. I was beyond angry. When my friend asked him to take a shower(He was probably beyond offense it she took the time to ask) he replied,”I’m O.K. . Needless to say his invitations are probably limited. However it is my response that I have to control. I asked him if it is his life goal to be the worlds ultimate funk muffin and if so he’s overdue in the purchase of his island because it’s impossible to be a hermit in a metro area. I also told him if social isolation was his goal he was well on track. Believe it or not, it is not my goal to humiliate the boy, I just want him to clean himself daily. The problem here was I thought about what I should say but everything I thought of was just mean and cruel.
What I really need to do is think less and listen to my intuition more. It seems that my head often gets me in so much trouble. I tend to plan what I am going to say when I should be listening more intently to what the other person is saying. I really need to listen more, I mean truly listen and allow myself to be open to the intuitive side before my lips part. Stop answering to what I think I know. I also need to really listen to what other people are saying. People almost never say what they mean. I don’t think many people know how. In learning to honor relationships,(which is what I really want to do here.) I need to learn how to give my full attention when someone speaks. People aren’t used to this either. All the same I love the effect. To make it a way of life is my challenge. It will a change for the better in my case.