I’ve always been shy & bit of a wallflower. More an observer I guess. I don’t think I ever learned much. >_<
I’ve always wanted people in my surroundings to feel comfortable & to be happy…. & therefore strive to make sure it is so; most of the time with complete disregard for my own comfort (which has now almost completely disappeared).
I was always taught that we are all equal, & every time I don’t consider myself before someone else I am putting them on a pedestal (in the worst case, with strangers – when one doesn’t even know if they deserve a pedestal!) therefore breaking the equilibrium.
I think unquestionably bending over backwards for people is not necessarily a bad thing because it shows a sense of humility & kindness, and keeps you from putting yourself on a pedestal, but it’s still unequality.
It’s a difficult balance to uphold, but the easiest trick is just to be honest I think. If you feel uncomfortable with a situation, but still going along with it because you don’t want to offend the person in question – be honest! Ask anyone, I think they’d rather hear it from you, rather than find out later. This is where humility & kindness truly comes into play.
I think it all boils down to having faith in YOURSELF, loving yourself. Only when you love yourself, do you have then have love to give to others. When the only happiness is found from the actions rather than from the people you’re doing it for…. well, think about it. I am.
“It’s far more difficult just to be simple than complicated”
