become more assertive

not confront people when they hurt, take advantage, or manipulate me. I bottle up my feelings until I can’t take it any more. But I don’t confront the person – I just imagine possible conversations in my head and let the walls begin to form against that person while my anger festers. I need to learn how to speak my mind before I get to the boiling point and speak in a way that doesn’t tear down relationships but lets a person know that I don’t appreciate how they are treating me. Sometimes I feel that confrontation is useless. If someone hurts my feelings, shouldn’t I just get over it? If someone is rude, they are proving that they are an idiot so confrontation will not accomplish anything. I need to find balance. Am I alone in this struggle?