I kid myself into thinking I like myself quite a lot, but when I’m really lucid I have to accept that if I did, I would like everyone else much better as well. There’s a big difference between really accepting and liking yourself, and just egotism.
I’ve found something that seems quite helpful, though, and I’ll share it with the rest of you. I already wrote this to Bilki, who seems to be causing herself a lot of suffering.
None of us has to feel the way she feels, that self-loathing and the feeling that it will never change. Right now we are wallowing in it, indulging to the hilt in these negative feelings. If that’s what we really want, okay. But we don’t have to feel that way if we really don’t want to. Someone has a method that would can help almost anyone feel differently. Her name is Byron Katie, and she just calls her method “the Work.” It’s simple, and you just have to start applying it. She gives workshops and events, and like most such things they are not cheap to attend. But her method is so simple that it’s easy to try out, and it costs nothing to try it, only the effort of doing the simple things she suggests.
Here’s the page where it’s described:
http://www.thework.com/thework.asp
Good luck to us all. I hope each one of us can succeed in learning to like ourselves.
