Nurture my relationship with my husband

This week I am trying to listen. Really listen.
How often do we spend our “listening” time waiting for that opportunity to jump in and say something? Hearing what is being said in some sense, but all the while devoting most of our energy devising our own reply? Waiting to be heard. Yearning the sound of our own voice..

This week I am trying to ask questions, and I am listening, wholly, to the answers.

This week is about telling Matt what is is about him that makes me swoon. It’s all about rejuvenating his sense of confidence and attractiveness.
Genuine compliments, and lots of them – a recipe for lurve.

Monthly.
October – Finish packing and cleaning the King St house, but don’t let him know it’s done. When he finally goes over there to do it all on his day off, he’ll be over the moon that I’ve done all the work :)

November – Decorate and fill our new bedroom with things he loves. Us girls have a tendency to decorate according to our own feminine tastes, but I really want to integrate things like his favourite books, images and belongings so it’s a special place for him to relax and spend time.

Weekly.
This week is kisses week. Its all about re-familiarising myself with kissing, and not freaking out when we are kissing and the baby starts to fuss. I want to kiss in public, kiss when we’re cleaning, kiss each other hello, kiss each other bye bye, kiss ourselves to asleep. I want to send text kisses, email kisses. I want to gross people out like we used to :P hehe

Next week is loveletter week. Leave a note somewhere for Matt to find everyday. In his wallet, in the car, in his phone, where ever!

Daily
Friday – A head massage while he falls asleep
Saturday – Email him something funny
Sunday – Give him a beautiful, handwritten anniversary card
Monday – Spend a beautiful day at Luna Park with NO NAGGING and absolutely no fights!
Tuesday – Watch a movie together

to get on with this goal in the most pro-active kind of way. I really have been neglecting the love of my life, since the birth of the love our BOTH our lives (our son).

Looking past the stress and past the sleep deprivation, I still have a burning desire to make Matt happy. I am going to post monthly, weekly and daily challenges for this goal – it’s all about rekindling my inspiration. I know that once I set of that spark, I can re-habituate myself with romance once more. I’m just out of practice ;)