be sexy

I think my new diet has revived my sex drive. I’m noticing more men in my vicinity (on the bus, on the street), and they seem to be noticing me. And I’m feeling more in the mood. Yay!

One of the keys to feeling sexy for me is to use it (‘it’ being my body and my sexuality). This means frequent physical activity and sexual activity of some kind.

Investing some time and effort in my body is making me feel much sexier. Here is what I’ve been doing.

more flattering clothes
pedicure
lash tint or mascara
haircut
shave legs, underarms
body skincare (shower pouf and lotion)
fuits/veggies, water, multivitamin, sleep, etc

Things I still want to do …

use make-up (not just foundation and lipgloss)*
stick to exercise routine
bikini groom
darken eyebrows
touch up highlights
wash & buy clothes
whiten teeth
remove moles
sunless tan (light)
facial
treat skin discoloration
non-surgical mini face lift
find big-bang beauty products/practices (maybe eye cream, etc)

*Saw an episode of ‘what not to wear’ featuring a woman who likes a natural face so the make-up artist showed her an easy natural look. I tried it and wow! But I haven’t done it since. Maybe tonight.

I’m learning I can feel sexier by wearing something flattering and avoiding what I know looks frumpy. I put on a pretty neglige the other night instead of an oversized nightshirt. It was just as comfortable. I’ve also been avoiding my usual chunky shoes. I refuse to wear uncomfortable heels, but I can still wear cute flats or sandals. It seems trivial/shallow, but it makes a huge difference in how I feel.

You learn about sexiness from role models, and your first role models are your parents. My mother did not feel sexy and she did not take care of herself. She discouraged me from paying attention to my appearance. She said it was vain, which I took to heart. Now I’m realizing it’s not vain unless you think your value as a person lies in your appearance or you spend an extreme amount of time on it to the detriment of other important personal qualities.

It’s healthy to take care of your body! And it’s healthy to feel sexy. I need a new role model … someone who is witty, loving, accomplished, and confident, and takes great care of her body and appearance.

I used to have natural sex appeal just by being young, pretty, and positive. I didn’t have to DO anything.

I’m 35 now, divorced, and sit in front of a computer for a living. This unfortunate combo has me feeling decidedly un-sexy.

But I know I’ve still got it in there somewhere! I’m on an archaeological dig for my mojo. I can take steps to be more youthful, pretty, and positive. Plus I have the advantage of being a real woman now (move over girls). I have some experience and I’ve gotten to that famous age where I own my sexuality.