I’m struggling with this. There are two I need to dump. One suddenly stopped talking to me for a month without letting me know why. He broke multiple promises with me in the process. Just yesterday, he contacted me talking about how terrible his life is, how it treats him so badly, and forgive him if I don’t hear from him for the next 6 months because he’ll be too busy hiding under a rock going ‘oh woe is me everyone hates me.’ You know, in the past, I would take this crap and see only his side of things, but now I think this is NOT fair to me, this is NOT being a friend to me. Why should I have to wait for months not knowing the true, specific reasons why my ‘friend’ is doing this to me?! He was SO nonspecific yesterday and tried putting the blame on me for me being such a “strong” person and other things that he tried making sound positive as to the reason why he “can’t face me.” WTF.
The other one has just been a jerk for years now. He used to be a mentor to me, and then he went off overseas for grad school and got a huge head and every time he’d email me back it just seemed like contempt for me because I was here finishing college and living in the U.S. still. All he did was criticize everything I was doing despite that he was being totally foolish in life. And I realized he has this completely wrong fantasy image in his head of who he thinks I am despite that I’ve told him so many things about myself. He wants to think I’m some ravishing sex fiend and a feminist, and I’m NEITHER. It makes me sick. And all he does is talk negatively about the area I still live in and looks down on all his OLD friends.
I just don’t know how to let go. The second one, I tried, but he threw a massive guilt-trip fit the last time. Bew hew, I’m the only friend he has that has lasted this long. WELL GEE I WONDER WHY! >:o
