overcome my fears

a lot easier said that done. i mean where do i start? i’m thinking that the most important fear is the one that affects me most in day to day life, the one that has a large impact on the way in which i live my life. which is?! the opposite sex seriously, it really gets me down at times..i can talk to them reasonably well when i’m feeling brave and even flirt a little, but i still have a deep distrust of them. i also have difficulty keeping eye contact. it’s really not good for someone of nearly 19 years of age! so any tips etc would be warmly welcomed =)

heights (only when i have a chance of falling from them)
dying/death
been driven in cars by people of my own age
flying
giving birth
creepy crawlies (particularly slugs and those furry caterpillars..AARGH!)
public speaking
being physically assaulted/raped/mugged (get self defense lessons to help with this)
trusting guys & asserting myself
people in general that i don’t know (social phobia)
fairground rides
committment

hmm..anyone got any ideas on how to overcome some of these fears?! i’m one phobic person i’ll admit :S (obviously the creepy crawlies one is not a huge deal but the others are kind of important to get over)