visit Nana in Beaufort

saturday, i drove to beaufort to see my friend David get married. i stayed at my grandparent’s house. only my grandfather (Papa) lives there b/c my grandma (Nana) is in the home. at 8am, Papa comes in b/c Nana is having some sort of pains and they need to go get her. so they took her to the emergency room.

i went a couple hours later to see her. i hung out in the er with her. i hate hospitals. and then i got put on lockdown. nobody could go in or out. then, finally, i could go out, but no one could come in to see her. why? inmate. yep. i was on lockdown with an inmate. awesome.

but i did get to spend a little over an hour with Nana who told me some really random stories while she ate her mashed potatoes.

the end.

i’ve talked to nan several times now on the phone (she accidentally calls me a lot) and i promised i would visit. so now i’m back from my trip and i get my car back tomorrow, so i’m going on sunday. with majesta. i will also eat chocolate while i am there.

this was sent out through my church yesterday morning. it made me cry. but i know my mom and the rest of the family needs this…

Since Christmas Day, I have been in Beaufort or running back and forth. Roy and I carried my mother into the emergency room where they did an emergency temp pacemaker, started rehydrating her and dialysis on her kidneys.

Not sure what brought all of this about, but she spent a week in ICU, another week in hospital and now is in an Assisted Living Facility. My mom is 82 and my dad is 84. She has taken care of him for 50+ years. He does very little for himself , but is learning quickly. He cannot be responsible for both of them. They both want her to come home, but she is suffering dementia of some sort and gets very confused. Metabolic encephalopathy is what they are terming the damage. We go to see the neurologist on Monday at 1pm.

Meanwhile, five very different children (I am #4) will be meeting on Sunday with my father to try and work out a solution that pleases everyone. 3 of us go to church, 2 do not. Of the 3 that go, two are semi practicing Catholics and then there’s me! WE NEED PRAYER. God’s will to be revealed is a tall order by itself , but for a group of 5 children, believers and not to agree, I do not ask for the little things in life. Good thing my faith knows no boundaries! I know without waiting for an answer that I am not alone. Thank you all. Your support and prayers are what will keep me going.

Always with hope and faith,
Kathleen

i did this a week ago.

it was hard. i think it was harder to see my mom dealing with all of it. she wants to make her mom happy and take care of her father who is lonely and can’t do anything for himself.

i realized that i want to be completely self sufficient before i get married. i want to be able to clean and cook and take care of my own finances and feel strong on all of that. and i want my husband to be able to do all of those things too.

it just sucks getting old.

i need to go back.

my grandma has alzheimer’s. she’s really sick and she’s dying.

it’s taken me awhile to come to terms with that.

i need to see her as much as possible before anything happens.