remove the word "should" from my vocabulary

this is also tough in summer. I feel I “should” be productive, be doing so much. I need to be careful that I do what I want to do and what is good for me to do, instead of shaming myself with what I think I “should” be doing

this is a really key concept to keep in mind while im teaching. instead of saying “well, they should have known that. they should have listened when i said that” it helps me be a lot more accepting. instead i look at where the students are, where i am, and work together to get somewhere together.

I want to remove the word “should” from my vocabulary because it ends up causing anxiety and negative feelings in my life. when i say “I should” it usually reflects an outside expectation that i feel obligated to meet, but dont really want to. or something i feel guilty about doing or not doing. what i can do instead is say what i WANT to do, reflect on its consequences for myself and others, and then make a decision about what i WILL do.

i also want to remove “you should, they should, he/she/it should” because that implies a judgement on another person or thing. when i say should about someone or something else, i find that i am judging them by my own standards, or some nebulous standard of society that may not even fit them or their situation. i want to remove the word should from my vocabulary.