Fall in love

I’ve been in love before, only to have my heart ripped out and stomped on. After a while, I thought I’d never be able to love again, even if I found someone.

Luckily, I met an amazing girl who proved me wrong, and reminded me of what an incredible high this is.

Falling in love is perhaps the only goal worth having – it’s what makes life worth living, it’s what makes you look forward to getting out of bed in the morning, it fills a void that sometimes you didn’t even know was there.

Falling in love is also scary, painful, and frought with challenges. When that much of yourself becomes invested in another person, when your happiness becomes contingent on theirs… it’s a dependency like no other. You hope that the other person feels the same way, that they make that same kind of investment in you – but one of life’s lessons learned is that it’s not always the case.

Love is also something that just happens. As much as you might want it to happen, it’s something that you have little control over. You can’t control who you fall in love with. You can’t control how they’ll feel about you. And ultimately, you only have control over half the relationship. For a lot of people, for me, that’s a scary thing given the power of the emotions involved.

Being in love is the highest high – so conversely, the pain that someone you love can cause you is the lowest low. Rejection, dishonesty, intentional hurt: These things can kill you, like a thousand knives twisting in your chest.

It may sound like I’m down on it, but I’m not. Ultimately, I’d take being in love any day over having no one to love, even knowing and having experienced the potential consequences. You can’t let fear control you – love is the greatest feeling in the world, well worth any pain and suffering that might come with it.