be a good wife

to do more things around the house that matter to P, but don’t matter so much to me. Today I recycled and threw out a huge stack of papers.

by John M. Gottman, whose ‘thin-slicing’ of marriages was mentioned in Blink. I was intrigued by the fact that this guy could watch married people discuss a conflict for 15 minutes and predict whether they’d stay together or divorce with 91% accuracy. So I decided to read The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

I’m fascinated by his claim that things like eye rolling can predict divorce. Indeed, I did a hell of a lot of eye rolling as my last marriage zoomed toward divorce. And now, although I think P and I have a very happy marriage, I am inspired to make it better, primarily by being a better wife. I’m also hoping he’ll read this book when I’m done with it so we can do some of the exercises together.

I adore my husband.