go on a bona fide date at least once a month

Now it seems so easy, it’s silly. When you’re a lot happier with your life, it’s a lot easier to go on dates. I don’t even so much care about the bonafide categorization either- all dates are bonafide to me now. And more of our activities qualify- that is to say, we go to do something and before you know it, it’s become a date.

this seems to be remarkably easy to accomplish nowadays in CA. Why was it so damn hard in Virginia? Stoopid.

went on a micro-date last night. just a couple drinks and an appetizer in the afternoon. it was nice. maybe another date coming up this saturday.

it’s important, and i’ve been doing it, but it’s also made me realize that it shouldn’t take a date for us to really enjoy each other’s company, and in fact some of our best times have been non-date.

This is not just running over to Barnes and Noble for a coffee before Triston gets home from school; this is a multiple hour affair that most likely involves some money (though not implicitly), an interesting place or activity, and some good food. Something to break us out of our typical “practically minded” form of conversation. We went on dates more frequently back in the first six months when we lived in Seattle. Those two factors had something to do with it. Now we have the horrible impediment of her grad school lurking in our path. I think these dates have to be planned a month early or they’ll never happen. Sad sad.