Underpromise and Overdeliver

Hmmm…this is going to be difficult for me. I find that I’m so eager to say yes to helping people that I put myself in situations where I let people down, and I hate doing that. I need to be more mindful of this goal throughout the day as I go about my daily business. I need to find some way to remind myself; a visual reminder…something less permanent than a tattoo.

Oh, do I feel like I’ve failed here. Recently I came into a bad situation in which I was asked to play a friends’ store opening party, and also a wedding…on the same day. Originally, I had agreed to the wedding, but the groom’s mother passed away a week prior to the wedding and from what I heard the wedding would be post-poned, so I signed up to help my friend with his store. A few days prior to the event, I find out the wedding was not post-poned as I had been informed…EEEP!

I ended up going to the wedding and I feel it was the right thing to do, but I feel awful.

I’m a people pleaser to put it simply; I just want to make everyone happy, and so find that I say ‘yes’ to things when I should be saying ‘no.’ I believe it’s actually more difficult for me to tell someone ‘no’ than to be told ‘no.’