So, my husband’s grandmother died the other day. She was 90 years old and truly lived and amazing long life. When we got married, she sort of “adopted” me as another grandkid and gave me one of her wedding rings (she was married 3 times) to wear. To be treated this way was truly humbling to me.
My husband also has 3 cousins, all which live in the area. I have to say that although they are nice girls/women, I never have truly “bonded” with them the way I have with other members of his family. I have tried to reach out in the past to them, but with very little response. However, when I do see them, they seem to like me, so I haven’t worried about it TOO MUCH.
Well, the other day, I sent all of them an email simply telling them how sorry I was about their grandmother, how she loved them very much and if there is anything I can do to let me know. However, unbeknownst to me one of them HAD BEEN OUT OF THE COUNTRY FOR MORE THAN A WEEK AND HAD NO IDEA THAT HER GRANDMOTHER HAD DIED AND MY FREAKING EMAIL BROKE THE NEWS TO HER.
So, now I feel like crawling in a hole, pulling a blanket over me and just dying. I know that she probably understood. I emailed her back and apologized for this, and haven’t heard back but it is just SUCH an uncomfortable feeling to know that I inadvertently caused someone to feel even more bad about a crappy situation. I really don’t like feeling this way and since I haven’t heard back from her or anyone else in her immediate family, I am now having the perception that they all “hate” me, which I know is also irrational and ridiculous, but it is how I am feeling right now.
And, with the holidays coming up and the memorial service in a few weeks, I am sure I will see her. Just not sure how to handle it if I do. Do I pretend that nothing happened? Or, do I just pull her aside and apologize personally.
God do I feel like a chump!
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