stand up for myself

So I was at one of the local bars here and meeting my friend’s friends for the first time…all was going swimmingly until an older gentleman (who until that point had been drunk but kind) made an obscene reference about me. I was angry and embarrassed, and I walked away. One of the men in our party immediately said “that wasn’t right”, and that helped me have the courage to stand up for myself to this older man that everyone there knew but didn’t say a word to when he made his comment. I was classy, and kind, but it was clear how I felt. I asked for an apology and I said straight out that I didn’t deserve that kind of treatment. It was awesome.

I was expressing my feelings about being disrespected by my love. I called him out when he tried to turn it around back to something I had done, and I was SO REAL when I spoke about the things that I couldn’t understand that had happened between us. It was such a moment of clarity, where I spoke from my heart. I think I touched his heart, but it wasn’t about that…I knew what I felt and I stood up for it and I am so damn proud of that.

I did it. I ended a relationship where I was totally putting myself out there and not really getting anything in return, and I did it by being honest about how I was feeling. AND, I was respected for doing so.