make more real friends

with a friend I hadn’t seen in a couple months. It was really wonderful to see her. I’m so glad we made the mutual effort not to lose touch.

I went for a few drinks with ‘the gang’ from work last Friday, and one of them – with whom I get along very well – said to me that he felt we were “real friends, not just work friends”. That was nice to hear.

I was just on 43 People and noticed for the first time that someone had added tags to my profile – two someones, in fact. I read through them in absolute disbelief that anyone was applying these lovely qualities to me. I feel hugged that they took the time to do that. Aardila and ohbyjingo, I love you both. Thank you.

...that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on.” – Baz Luhrmann, The Sunscreen Song

A dear friend is leaving this week for a year in Australia. It feels like I’ll never see him again – although I know I’ll feel silly for thinking that as soon as I get the first email! But I don’t do endings and goodbyes well, and I’m really going to miss him.

I finally screwed up the courage to once again email my erstwhile best friend who dropped suddenly out of contact in January. I had called a few times to be told she wasn’t home, and sent several emails which got no response, and had given up in hurt and confusion. I know she has some problems and I want to be there for her, and I’m sad that she’s pushed me away. I miss her terribly.

At B.’s going-away party Friday, I had one of those slightly drunken but nonetheless sincere conversations where you feel like you really click with someone. T. is a relatively new addition to our group and I’d always got on well with him, so it was lovely to discover he’s a kindred spirit. :o)

And I’m having coffee again tomorrow evening with my coffee-buddy from a couple weeks ago.

Yesterday evening I went for coffee with a new friend, who I’ve been chatting to on Yahoo for several weeks. I love the fluttery buzz you get out of meeting an online friend IRL for the first time! :o) He was interesting, articulate, and fun… definitely a to-meet-again.

And I’ve made a real friend right here on 43T, though I haven’t met her in person yet – hopefully won’t be too long! I won’t mention names, though. I won’t even mention antlers. :o)

making the most of the friends I already have! I have plenty of … acquaintances is the wrong word, cos they are friends, but they’re not the kind of soul-deep understanding life-sharing loving friends I mean when I say “real” friends. But I do have a handful of friends like that, and I should be making more effort to keep those relationships alive.

I just got back from a totally serendipitous lunch with one of those friends, whom I haven’t seen in many months. Isn’t it wonderful when you meet someone after a long absence, and are able to pick up again right where you left off?! So that’s a start. I need to do it more often.