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The power of the mind is truly amazing. If you believe in something, view it as important and genuinely want it, then you can have it!

I’m finding now, that I don’t need to “remind” myself, to look at someone in the eyes when they’re talking to me, or to “look interested” in what they’re saying, or to stop talking over the top of them and let them finish.

Once you get into a ‘routine,’ there’s a part of you the evolves, you’re developing! I’m developing!

To listen properly, shows amongst other things, that one has patience, care, consideration, humility, and perhaps some wisdom (knowing that there may be something new to learn). It also is a quality appreciated by nearly everybody and highly sought after in friends! = )

I have a tendancy to just be so caught up in my life and what i have to do that there are many times where i dont give enough attention to the people in my life. For example, i have a friend who has a particular problem at the moment (actually she’s had it for about 6 months and this i know because she counts the days). Anyway each ‘DnM’ session takes quite a long time to finish up, my mind can’t help but wander … especially if she’s already told me what she’s telling me (which most of the time she has)... OR or if i bump into someone, say the quick ‘hi!’- sometimes i don’t even look the person in the eye! (or at least long enough) whilst i keep going. This is not because i’m rude or snobby, its just one of those things that i do without thinking, because i’m so intently focused on what i’m doing or have to do. However, being somebody who is extremely self-aware, i realise that this is what i do! (then i feel rude)

Mini-goal: Even if i’m in the middle of something, if i’ve got a hundred things all running through my head at once but someone needs to talk, or even say hi, from now on i’m going to stop and acknowledge. Stop and acknowledge…

One day, some day, i’ll need someone at a time probably not convenient for them…