remodel my socialization

Things I’m actively working on now:

put passion first

love myself so I can love others

avoid hurting myself so I’m less likely to hurt others the same way

ask people about their families, friends, and pets – most people are more interested in those things than they are in themselves

answer the phone rather than letting it ring and hoping the person doesn’t bother leaving a message

ask more questions and be unashamed that I don’t already know

touch, smell, and taste things rather than just looking at them or listening to them

be more authoritative when making suggestions for clients

say what I’m thinking (including “what do you mean by that,” “no,” and “wait, you made a mistake”)

quit trying to guilt God into helping me

leave when I want to leave

do what I want whether the other person wants to join me or not

release my belly and thighs

talk about my childhood only when I know someone

stop running hot and cold/be “good and mad”

counter others’ negativity

know that I’m a beautiful woman, be okay with that, and enjoy the extra attention

share food

stop using my intelligence to cool off interactions and make myself distant

avoid gossiping/vent responsibly

Things I want to do soon:

believe I’m fully worth it (money, attention, time, whatever) as a professional and a person

believe that I can get my needs for a reasonable standard of living met, even if money is involved

stop being scared that everyone I come to love is either going to abandon me or die young

bring a gift to an event

get TW’s birthday gift to him

have more scheduled time (preferably full days) alone

have nice relationships with women

learn to soothe myself on the run

give my cat a special treat every day for a month

have more cute underwear

Things I want to do one day:

get a facial

get a pedicure

enjoy children

get a Regina dress

try a women’s group

bring enough to share

smile to myself in public without feeling strange about it

hum happily to myself in public without feeling strange about it

Things I’m actively working on now:

ask people about their families, friends, and pets – most people are more interested in those things than they are in themselves

answer the phone rather than letting it ring and hoping the person doesn’t bother leaving a message

ask more questions and be unashamed that I don’t already know

be more authoritative when making suggestions for clients

say what I’m thinking (including “what do you mean by that,” “no,” and “wait, you made a mistake”)

quit trying to guilt God into helping me

leave when I want to leave

do what I want whether the other person wants to join me or not

release my belly and thighs

talk about my childhood only when I know someone

stop running hot and cold/be “good and mad”

counter others’ negativity

know that I’m a beautiful woman, be okay with that, and enjoy the extra attention

give 30 gifts in 60 days

share food

stop using my intelligence to cool off interactions and make myself distant

avoid gossiping/vent responsibly

Things I want to do soon:

believe I’m fully worth it (money, attention, time, whatever) as a professional and a person

believe that I can get my needs for a reasonable standard of living met, even if money is involved

stop being scared that everyone I come to love is either going to abandon me or die young

bring a gift to an event

get TW’s birthday gift to him

have more scheduled time (preferably full days) alone

have nice relationships with women

learn to soothe myself on the run

give my cat a special treat every day for a month

have more cute underwear

Things I want to do one day:

get a facial

get a pedicure

enjoy children

get a Regina dress

try a women’s group

bring enough to share

smile to myself in public without feeling strange about it

hum happily to myself in public without feeling strange about it

Things I’m actively working on now:

answer the phone rather than letting it ring and hoping the person doesn’t bother leaving a message

ask more questions and be unashamed that I don’t already know

be more authoritative when making suggestions for clients

say what I’m thinking (including “what do you mean by that,” “no,” and “wait, you made a mistake”)

quit trying to guilt God into helping me

leave when I want to leave

do what I want whether the other person wants to join me or not

release my belly and thighs

talk about my childhood only when I know someone

stop running hot and cold/be “good and mad”

counter others’ negativity

know that I’m a beautiful woman, be okay with that, and enjoy the extra attention

give 30 gifts in 60 days

share food

stop using my intelligence to cool off interactions and make myself distant

avoid gossiping/vent responsibly

Things I want to do soon:

believe I’m fully worth it (money, attention, time, whatever) as a professional and a person

believe that I can get my needs for a reasonable standard of living met, even if money is involved

stop being scared that everyone I come to love is either going to abandon me or die young

bring a gift to an event

get TW’s birthday gift to him

have more scheduled time (preferably full days) alone

have nice relationships with women

learn to soothe myself on the run

give my cat a special treat every day for a month

have more cute underwear

Things I want to do one day:

get a facial

get a pedicure

enjoy children

get a Regina dress

try a women’s group

bring enough to share

smile to myself in public without feeling strange about it

hum happily to myself in public without feeling strange about it

Things I’m actively working on now:

answer the phone rather than letting it ring and hoping the person doesn’t bother leaving a message

ask more questions and be unashamed that I don’t already know

be more authoritative when making suggestions for clients

say what I’m thinking (including “what do you mean by that,” “no,” and “wait, you made a mistake”)

quit trying to guilt God into helping me

leave when I want to leave

do what I want whether the other person wants to join me or not

release my belly and thighs

talk about my childhood only when I know someone

stop running hot and cold/be “good and mad”

counter others’ negativity

know that I’m a beautiful woman, be okay with that, and enjoy the extra attention

give 30 gifts in 60 days

share food

stop using my intelligence to cool off interactions and make myself distant

Things I want to do soon:

believe I’m fully worth it (money, attention, time, whatever) as a professional and a person

believe that I can get my needs for a reasonable standard of living met, even if money is involved

stop being scared that everyone I come to love is either going to abandon me or die young

bring a gift to an event

get TW’s birthday gift to him

have more scheduled time (preferably full days) alone

have nice relationships with women

learn to soothe myself on the run

avoid gossiping/vent responsibly

give my cat a special treat every day for a month

have more cute underwear

Things I want to do one day:

get a facial

get a pedicure

enjoy children

get a Regina dress

try a women’s group

bring enough to share

smile to myself in public without feeling strange about it

hum happily to myself in public without feeling strange about it

Things I’m actively working on now:

answer the phone rather than letting it ring and hoping the person doesn’t bother leaving a message

ask more questions and be unashamed that I don’t already know

be more authoritative when making suggestions for clients

say what I’m thinking (including “what do you mean by that,” “no,” and “wait, you made a mistake”)

quit trying to guilt God into helping me

leave when I want to leave

do what I want whether the other person wants to join me or not

release my belly and thighs

talk about my childhood only when I know someone

stop running hot and cold/be “good and mad”

counter others’ negativity

know that I’m a beautiful woman, be okay with that, and enjoy the extra attention

give 30 gifts in 60 days

share food

Things I want to do soon:

believe I’m fully worth it (money, attention, time, whatever) as a professional and a person

believe that I can get my needs for a reasonable standard of living met, even if money is involved

stop being scared that everyone I come to love is either going to abandon me or die young

bring a gift to an event

get TW’s birthday gift to him

have more scheduled time (preferably full days) alone

learn to soothe myself on the run

avoid gossiping/vent responsibly

give my cat a special treat every day for a month

have more cute underwear

Things I want to do one day:

get a facial

get a pedicure

enjoy children

stop using my intelligence to cool off interactions and make myself distant

get a Regina dress

start a conversation with another woman in 3D

have a conversation I enjoy with another woman in 3D

have a conversation I enjoy for more than five minutes with another woman in 3D, letting her do most of the talking

have a conversation I enjoy for more than twenty minutes with another woman in 3D, letting her do most of the talking

arrange a social get-together with another woman and enjoy it

have a close female friend in 3D

try a women’s group

bring enough to share

smile to myself in public without feeling strange about it

hum happily to myself in public without feeling strange about it

Things I’m actively working on now:

answer the phone rather than letting it ring and hoping the person doesn’t bother leaving a message

ask more questions and be unashamed that I don’t already know

be more authoritative when making suggestions for clients

say what I’m thinking (including “what do you mean by that,” “no,” and “wait, you made a mistake”)

quit trying to guilt God into helping me

leave when I want to leave

do what I want whether the other person wants to join me or not

release my belly and thighs

talk about my childhood only when I know someone

stop running hot and cold/be “good and mad”

counter others’ negativity

know that I’m a beautiful woman, be okay with that, and enjoy the extra attention

Things I want to do soon:

believe I’m fully worth it (money, attention, time, whatever) as a professional and a person

believe that I can get my needs for a reasonable standard of living met, even if money is involved

stop being scared that everyone I come to love is either going to abandon me or die young

share food

bring a gift to an event

give a gift every day for a month

get TW’s birthday gift to him

have more scheduled time (preferably full days) alone

learn to soothe myself on the run

avoid gossiping/vent responsibly

give my cat a special treat every day for a month

have more cute underwear

Things I want to do one day:

get a facial

get a pedicure

enjoy children

stop using my intelligence to cool off interactions and make myself distant

get a Regina dress

start a conversation with another woman in 3D

have a conversation I enjoy with another woman in 3D

have a conversation I enjoy for more than five minutes with another woman in 3D, letting her do most of the talking

have a conversation I enjoy for more than twenty minutes with another woman in 3D, letting her do most of the talking

arrange a social get-together with another woman and enjoy it

have a close female friend in 3D

try a women’s group

bring enough to share

smile to myself in public without feeling strange about it

hum happily to myself in public without feeling strange about it

Things I’m actively working on now:

answer the phone rather than letting it ring and hoping the person doesn’t bother leaving a message

ask more questions and be unashamed that I don’t already know

be more authoritative when making suggestions for clients

say what I’m thinking (including “what do you mean by that,” “no,” and “wait, you made a mistake”)

quit trying to guilt God into helping me

leave when I want to leave

do what I want whether the other person wants to join me or not

release my belly and thighs

talk about my childhood only when I know someone

One-shot things I could do anytime:

clean the stuff in the cabinet that my cat has covered with dirt from his little feet (ick)

Things I want to do soon:

believe I’m fully worth it (money, attention, time, whatever) as a professional and a person

believe that I can get my needs for a reasonable standard of living met, even if money is involved

stop running hot and cold/be “good and mad”

share food

bring a gift to an event

give a gift every day for a month

get TW’s birthday gift to him

counter others’ negativity

have more scheduled time (preferably full days) alone

learn to soothe myself on the run

avoid gossiping/vent responsibly

give my cat a special treat every day for a month

know that I’m a beautiful woman, be okay with that, and enjoy the extra attention

have more cute underwear

Things I want to do one day:

get a facial

get a pedicure

enjoy children

stop using my intelligence to cool off interactions and make myself distant

get a Regina dress

start a conversation with another woman in 3D

have a conversation I enjoy with another woman in 3D

have a conversation I enjoy for more than five minutes with another woman in 3D, letting her do most of the talking

have a conversation I enjoy for more than twenty minutes with another woman in 3D, letting her do most of the talking

arrange a social get-together with another woman and enjoy it

have a close female friend in 3D

try a women’s group

bring enough to share

smile to myself in public without feeling strange about it

hum happily to myself in public without feeling strange about it

Here are some things I determined I’d like to do. I’ll put them up higher in the list individually as time goes by. I’ve started with

compliment someone every day for a month

decide whether to contact someone who hurt me

And later I can…

clean the stuff in the cabinet that my cat has covered with dirt from his little feet (ick)

give my cat a special treat every day for a month

know that I’m a beautiful woman, be okay with that, and enjoy the extra attention

have more cute underwear

get a facial

get a pedicure

ask more questions and be unashamed that I don’t already know

say what I’m thinking (including “what do you mean by that,” “no,” and “wait, you made a mistake”)

believe I’m fully worth it (money, attention, time, whatever) as a professional and a person

believe that I can get my needs for a reasonable standard of living met, even if money is involved

stop running hot and cold/be “good and mad”

enjoy children

share food

bring a gift to an event

give a gift every day for a month

get TW’s birthday gift to him

counter others’ negativity

have more scheduled time (preferably full days) alone

stop using my intelligence to cool off interactions and make myself distant

avoid gossiping/vent responsibly

quit trying to guilt God into helping me

get a Regina dress

leave when I want to leave

do what I want whether the other person wants to join me or not

release my belly and thighs

start a conversation with another woman in 3D

have a conversation I enjoy with another woman in 3D

have a conversation I enjoy for more than five minutes with another woman in 3D, letting her do most of the talking

have a conversation I enjoy for more than twenty minutes with another woman in 3D, letting her do most of the talking

arrange a social get-together with another woman and enjoy it

have a close female friend in 3D

try a women’s group

bring enough to share

smile to myself in public without feeling strange about it

hum happily to myself in public without feeling strange about it

learn to soothe myself on the run

talk about my childhood only when I know someone