love my job

the reason I’ve been away so much is because I started a new assignment in my organisation. I introduced myself to our CIO, who happens to be my boss’ boss’ boss’ boss and I said I was looking for new challenges. He told me to send him my resumé and within a week’s time I started working on a new project with one of his employees. It’s so exciting!! I’ll keep my old job, but I’m dividing my time between this and the new assignment. I’m soooo happy to start something new, work with new people and be able to travel a bit now.

I cannot believe my luck. I walked up to introduce myself to the CIO of my organisation who happens to be my boss’ boss’ boss’ boss and told him that I’ll be finishing my MBA this year and looking for new challenges. He asked me to send him my resumé! Hahahahaha! I hope it amounts to something. I’m sooo ready for a change.

I also have a lunch interview with a majour consulting firm at the end of the month. I am scared out of my wits!! I’ll be working on preparing for this interview over the next couple of weeks..knowing myself and my abilities, identifying my past successes and lessons I’ve learned, expressing what I want in my next career move. It’s pretty exciting, but scary because although I have years of experience and proven performance on the job, I’m still afraid that I won’t be able to handle something more…I doubt my competence sometimes..which is actually worse than not having the competence in the first place!!! I’ve got to believe in me. I am who I am.

it’s scary! I’m getting a lot done and loving it! I wonder how long I can keep up this momentum…

Applying our new “Fight Club” rules to the job is working for me..I feel enthusiatic about the future and my ability to enjoy my work, my co-workers and even my dreaded boss! P is still a little disappointed with the whole situation, but he asked me to keep bringing him back into the light…today he was complaining about our coworkers talking too much, about the boss dragging up his old ideas again hoping to pass it through the management team that never agrees with anything he suggest anyways. I told P to just come back and focus on what he has control over, to ignore the agendas of those around us and just do our jobs…We all know that complaining about things doesn’t change the situation at all. We have to work for our own benefit…in doing so we actually will benefit the group.

My colleague and I have decided to make our own “Fight Club” rules to deal with our incompetent manager and delusioned team-mates. We’re building our own strategy for coping with and countering all the office nonsense that we are subjected to on a daily basis. Basically, our strategy involves acting as though our co-workers and boss don’t really exist. We will set
objectives for the two of us and the rest of the team and will go about meeting these objectives unbeknownst to anyone else in the team. So, we’re planning on doing things like directing the staff meetings towards more productive topics, communicating with other departments to solve problems collaboratively, acting on initiatives in our projects without awaiting approval, refraining from criticising others or making them feel threatened.

-smile and remember you’re getting paid to pass this time together with your co-workers who basically only want your love and attention

-think of all the tasty restaurant meals you can enjoy, beautiful clothes you can buy, or new martinis you can try, thanks to the X amount of dollars that you are making during this moment of drudge

-make lists of new goals to accomplish in your life

-make a meal menu for the coming week, or a list of what you remember eating for the past week

-come up with generic responses to the inane questions that may be thrown at you, such as, “Yeah, I’d really like to comment on that but only after I’ve had some time to look at the background material.” or “Yes, I completely agree with what you’re saying – we’ll have to explore this in more depth during our next meeting.” ...you get the picture..

-figure out where your next vacation is going to be

-make lists of errands to run or stuff to pick up at the pharmacy (you always need something from the pharmacy) at lunch time

-imagine the best way for someone with your skill set and personality to make a million dollars (it may be playing the lottery..it doesn’t have to be feasible, just imaginable)

-imagine the best way for the person sitting across from you with their skill set and personality to make a million dollars (it may be through stripping..it doesn’t have to be feasible, just imaginable)

but my boss is an A-hole…so for now I’m “feeling lukewarm” about it. I know it’s the worst thing for your career to stay in a job working for a boss that doesn’t support you…and my boss actually works against me! When I want an assignment, I act like I don’t so he’ll give it to me. If I show any enthusiasm for something he takes it away and assigns it to someone else…like I said, A-hole with a capital A, but at least he’s predictable. Also, in any case, whatever I’m assigned, I always do a great job, so it really is his “personal problem” with me that compels him to act like this. In the end, I know I’m still very fortunate considering all the other horror stories I’ve heard! I can’t complain, really.

1. identify my role in the group, what I bring to the table
2. identify my strengths
3. take note of all the positive things that I’ve accomplished
4. appreciate how the job helps me meet my personal goals
5. when discouraged, look on the bright side of things, the benefits of my job
6. forget about changing others or situations that are out of my control
7. take control of my own responsibilities
8. numb out the numbskulls
9. stop analysing, criticising everything that is wrong
10. take breaks

The adversity I face in my job gives me the opportunity to grow.

Here is the remedy to stop Whining:

1. Switch to problem-solving mode
2. Take a more realistic look aroud you
3. Notice and Appreciate what is working in your life and what you accomplish
4. Make a commitment to do something! anything other than whine and complain.

Remember: Whining stems from feelings of helplessness…focus on what you can control